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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]							I like you op, he’s the one who travels, he’s the one who keeps traveling, if he wants to talk to you, he can come to you. 
For those who think this is heartless, it isn’t. Fitting your life around a partner who isn’t there absolutely sucks, all of the hard work of a relationship none of the pleasures, no cuddling in bed after a day, good bad or indifferent, you can’t cuddle with someone who isn’t there. You also don’t get random tender moments, I can remember coming home being real upset and hurt by something and my husband hugged me and then gave me a nice pair of fuzzy socks. It was so sweet, he was putting away Christmas gifts, he couldn’t undo why I was upset but he could be sweet in a way that he simply wouldn’t have been able to do had he not been physically present.  It’s important to know what you want, op and it sounds like you are reasonable. 
Same for experiences, if I’m in a relationship, we’re doing life together, why would I want to do my own thing and then FaceTime or text. 
And op, you are right, these chats just make you realize that the guy isn’t here. 
I’d decide what you want. I’d probably tell him “Travel all you want, I won’t be in touch with you while you’re gone”. 
Realize that he may not stop traveling, though also realize that you may be providing a perspective he hasn’t heard before. Don’t argue, just state your intent and then do it. [/quote]

Omg no - you don't hold having a job with travel against a boyfriend and gameplay thinking they need to make it up to you.  You move on and find someone who is better fit for you, don't ruminate on how they're not there and need to come to you and then pouting if they don't call the amount of you want[/quote]

I’m not game playing. He was in a down season when we met and I didn’t know he would travel a lot. During these up seasons it’s been hard. I brought it up last time to him that I didn’t think we were compatible and he tries to work really hard and practically smothers me when he’s home. But then he is gone traveling. The up and down is disruptive to my mood, sleep, schedule. I’m not taking it out on him. I’m trying to figure out if it’s worth it or what I can do so I don’t feel so out of whack when it transitions. [/quote]

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