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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, have you heard of NaPro technology?  It allows for sampling without masturbation.  It is not wrong for your husband to have reservations.  Please consider looking into alternatives that take his feelings into account--maybe he doesn't want masturbation and porn to be part of having children with you.[/quote]

I know this post was made with the best of intentions, but I think that if you are going to recommend a treatment that is rooted in a particular religion and its belief system (in this case Catholicism), you should make it clear that you are doing so.  OP may be Catholic and this may be helpful to her, but the treatment you suggest is also promoted by people who are very critical and judgmental about IVF.  I don't think it's kind or helpful to direct someone to those resources without clarifying that.  I am also not aware that NaPro allows for sampling without masturbation...for PCOS it may offer methods to treat the ovaries, but I don't see how you can sample without, um, producing a sample.[/quote]

I apologize--I was typing too late at night, and I should have been more gentle and thorough in my post.  It is true that NaPro technology operates within the moral framework of Catholicism.  I don't know if OP or her husband is Catholic, but the way she described her husband's anger, which is limited to this specific issue and is otherwise loving and supportive of her, it made me think he may have moral qualms about the treatment.  It's something I have seen more than once.

It is also true that NaPro does not utilize IVF, because that is illicit, but it does have a far more comprehensive and strenuous approach to healing infertility than most secular OBs, precisely because certain technologies are not licit.  Simply because they have to work with a limited number of morally licit options, so they need to make those options count--does that make sense?

I have PCOS, OP.  The secular doctors I went to wanted to go straight from Metformin to Clomid to IUI to IVF, because that is the progression they are accustomed to.  But that is not the only option, especially when you are suffering from PCOS and have a healthy husband.  Would you even consider a consultation with a doctor who specializes in NaPro technology?  Its success rates sometimes surpass secular medicine's.  If it gives your husband peace of mind, would it be worth a try?

Of course, if her husband's reservations are not moral ones, then this does not apply.

Oh, and the way a sperm sample is obtained is quite simple:  the couple has sex while using a certain kind of condom, which is perforated.  That way, the act is still "open to life," because pregnancy is still possible, but a sample may be obtained for study.  So no porn or masturbation is required.[/quote]

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