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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ask your daughter to decide. Tell her there is no right or wrong decision because both teams have merit. Teach her to make a pro/con list. That’s what we did with our daughter. It was hard for her, but at the end of the process, she made the right decision for her.[/quote]

It's hard for a kid to make a pro-con list on something like this because they don't really know the cons.  She knows she'll be leaving her friends but it's hard to understand that you may not gel with your new teammates the same way.  She knows it's a longer drive but doesn't really understand that she'll be spending SO MUCH MORE time in the car.  She knows the other team is better but doesn't know what it takes to be part of a better team (more expectations, more drills, more work?)

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At that age she is old enough to make the call. If you have to drive to and from the practice location to give her a sense of commute so be it. If she doesn’t seem to have an idea of the increased demands, have her attend a practice. Otherwise a 12 yo is capable. DS plays soccer and has always made the final decision on the team. We currently make a 45 minute drive each way (longer in traffic). I don’t like the drive but DS has had such an amazing experince on the team that I’m glad that he begged me to let him try out there instead of limiting him to closer clubs. The flip side is we have always told him we support him if he wants a break, to quit or to move to a lower level because the competition can be stressful. He needs to own his experience. What he tells us repeatedly is that playing at a lower level is frustrating and he wants to be challenged because he know it makes him a stronger player. [/quote]

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