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[quote=Anonymous]As a couple there are three separate issues:

1) To what extent do we as a couple, weigh the advice of extended family (this may vary widely depending on the family member in question)?

2) To what extent do we as a couple allow feedback from family members (even if we never follow the feedback)?

3) How do we communicate when we have reached the limit on feedback.

It sounds like you two are on the same page with #1, but either have an issue with #2 or #3.

If #2 is the problem, then my guess is that he thinks you need to just let her complain and then quietly do whatever you were going to do anyway but you find the complaining really difficult to endure and need to experience less of it for your own mental health.

If #3, then it may be that you both agree that you shouldn’t have to hear this much criticism, but your preference is to tell her to cut it out or else and he would like you to respond differently (e.g., leave the room silently, signal to him so he can tell her himself, just say something more diplomatically, etc.)

Figure out where you guys are on the wrong page and move forward from there.[/quote]

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