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[quote=Anonymous]In addition to the good points made by 15:29, here are my observations.
1.  It is very expensive to move from a low cost of living area to the DMV.  So financially it is challenging.
2.  If he is lonely, moving him here will not fix that unless he is an extreme extrovert, and if he were already an extrovert, then he likely wouldn't be lonely.   My MIL moved her 7 years ago and I question whether it was the right decision.  She wasn't old enough, or in poor health, so she moved to a condo (as opposed to a seniors community) but she has never made any friends, joined a church or gotten involved in any of the activities she participated in back in her hometown, where she had an active group of friends and social life.    We are essentially her social life but DH and I both work full time and our kids are all older teens/college.    I feel badly about that and wonder now if she might have been better off moving into some type of seniors community back in her hometown.  
3.  My mother had no interest in moving here and, following a medical event, had to move to an seniors facility (has continuity of care---she is currently in her own apartment but could be moved to assisted living).  She has developed a new friend group there since she no longer drives and is much happier remaining there than she would ever be up here.    We have discussed what should be done if she becomes mentally incapacitated through dementia, e.g., and in that instance I probably would move her here and she is okay with that.   The downside to her remaining there is that I travel a lot more frequently to visit her (which involves flying, renting a car, etc. so it is expensive and time-consuming for me) and holidays are hard.

It really depends on his personality and his finances. [/quote]

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