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[quote=Anonymous]OP - if your children are accepted into the Big 3/5 and you like it - go ahead. As first PP said, you can move later if it's not a fit.

I'd just say that you should be very honest with yourself as time marches on (and teach your kids to be too) on whether it's a good fit. I can imagine that it might be hard to leave when/if that time comes - sometimes just to leave friends, but sometimes feeling like a failure (not saying that they are failures but it can be a common feeling).

It can also be hard to leave given the environment.  Some families at Big3/Big5 really wear their children's attendance as a badge of honor and I found they tend to be even more effusive about it when their kids started at younger ages. Some are coy about it and gush how lucky they are to have been admitted early because they don't know if they ever would have gotten in later.  In that sort of environment, while everyone is self congratulating themselves and feeling so blessed - it can make it hard to leave (why leave something so great) and sometimes feel like leave is being labeled as not being able to cut it regardless of why the move was made.

Of course, not all families are drunk on Koolaid, but sadly, that group is not particularly small either.

As you say, you can't really know in advance.
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