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Reply to "Divorcing Spouse Because They Won't Condemn Parents."
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[quote=Anonymous]DP and I have a slightly different perspective that I feel is important to acknowledge and that is that often what attracts us to our spouse can also be the Achilles heel if we allow it to be. If you are honest, OP, you were probably attracted to your DH’s easygoing nature and aversion to conflict—when it came to you. His non-confrontational style probably meshed well with your own direct assertiveness. But this trait (that is attractive to you in a mate) is not useful in terms of his ability/willingness to stand up in support of you to his parents. It might help your relationship for you to develop empathy to this fact and first recognize the challenge that it poses to his entire way of being in the world. It may not be that he doesn’t care. He just isn’t “built” that way and you knew this when you chose him. So it may take time and patience on your part if you expect him to handle this conflict or set this boundary with in-laws.[/quote]
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