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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve been happily monogamous for 34 years. It really helps that my husband always puts my sexual needs before his and once that happens it’s his turn and then maybe mine again. I do sometimes wonder what it would be like to be with someone else but I’d be a fool to give up what I have. [/quote]

Same here, 32 years, but we're not what OP is asking about, which is "serial" monogamy. A succession of exclusive relationships .I'm all for excusivity and commitment but I think I know the kind of serial monogamy OP's talking about here. Having had a close relative who married five times, and had a few Very Serious Relationships! between marriages, and who always swore each of the spouses/significant others were The One At Last, I've seen serial monogamy at work. It's fine while it lasts and crashes and burns as hard as any other soured relationship when it doesn't.

It also makes your relatives, friends and colleagus tend to be skeptical, and believe you're crying wolf, whenever you make the claim, yet again, that this relationship is the real deal and the keeper. I tend to agree with a PP who said it's just shorthand for failing at truly long-term committed relationships. [/quote]

OP here. I think there serial monogamists who are intentional and serial monotheistic are not intentional. Non-intentional serial monogamists think that several people are “the one” only to be disappointed and start the cycle back over again.

I’m an intentional serial monogamist. It’s not that my relationships fail or crash and burn terribly. It’s moreso that I’m realizing I don’t want to sacrifice what is required for lifetime partnership. I’ve been proposed to twice and had a couple of boyfriend who were strongly marriage minded but the relationship ended before it could go there.

Having committed 1-3 year relationships has brought me a lot of joy and good memories.  The flip side is that as I get older some family members and friends judge me. I also wonder if I will later regret not settling down with one man.[/quote]

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