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[quote=Anonymous]There are a lot of very bad/ineffective therapists out there. And the thing is, to really benefit from therapy, the client kind of has to understand what they want to change and how it can change. Which is tough for most people. A very good therapist working with an evidence-baed approach can help guide the client towards goals. But if you’re just set on using therapy for purposes other than changing, it’s not gonna work.

I’m a very experienced therapy “client” and partly for that reason, I refused to go to couples therapy with my ex after things had in my opinion crossed the point of no return but we were still together. I wasn’t interested (at that point) in improving our communication as future coparents because I knew myself well enough that I had faith I could work out how to communicate with the help of my 1:1 therapists. And I did NOT want to sit in a therapy session and even for a second be put in the situation where a therapist was treating us as equally responsible for the problems. My ex’s stated motivation for therapy was that I would learn to be “nicer” to him so he would stop being a jerk to me. No thanks.

We did go to one session of so-called “discernment” therapy and the therapist was totally unable to handle my anger. Because yeah I was furious at my ex due to his behavior (long story - complete abdication of parenting/domestic responsibilities; financial issues; low-level physical abuse). And I let it out at the session and the therapist was completely useless. [/quote]

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