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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Based on my experience and my friend’s:

Is couple therapy not helpful in some circumstances —when there is a dominant personality, for instance? Can’t they just take over and control that sphere too?

Thoughts? Guidance or criteria on when it’s useful.  Please don’t focus on “abuse” This is about more subtle behaviors that mess up relationships and their chance of success.[/quote]

Often the person "taking over" is the one that actually wants it to work. And therapists are so dishonest just to take money that they will let any dysfunction just go and act like it's normal. A good therapist would try to bring out both sides equally but most just pretend like there is nothing they can do and collect a check. My ex was a covert narcissist who was sleeping around with multiple people and taking money and when confronted said he was depressed and so we went to couples counseling to see if we could be happier together because he said he wanted to stop cheating.  During each session rather than bringing up issues he would explain to the therapist that we were doing great and he was very happy. He would never address issues, rarely talk, never do the counselors homework and would just try to get out of making an effort by pretending  all was well. It was so obviously not well except for that maybe he was happier that he could prolong using me with this therapy. The counselor was found by him which was a mistake.  I think this guy was someone these men found to give their spouses around and it was so obvious the therapist was a scammed because he never asked my ex to do the homework or even do it on the spot in the session. Sure I was talking more but that was because he could only say so much without giving away that therapy was just a diversions tactic.[/quote]

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