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[quote=Anonymous]I'm with you that the psychologist screwed up. Your DS got the message that he's brilliant and that he can't be expected to do anything about it. Its really an ugly combo. This is why the new advice is to congratulate children on their effort, not their smarts. Which is why your first call should be to the psychologist responsible for this. (When you say "the doctor" I assume that is a different clinician, who will be prescribing meds?) Even if you don't have an appointment, call. presumably he has some theory for why he told your teen this info, so he should help you play clean up. Now it could be that he really can't focus now but will if his ADHD is treated. So perhaps you should wait until that happens before assuming he can just work harder at it. This will also give you some time to cool off -- because you are clearly worked up about this, as I would be -- and perhaps talk to some experts about this. I'm thinking about Dr. Shapiro's workshops for parents of kids with challenging behaviors, which teaches behavior management tools. Because I think once his ADHD is treated you should approach this with a structured set of goals and rewards.[/quote]
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