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[quote=Anonymous]It’s okay to be disappointed AND happy for your friend. One of the things I love about swim is that it teaches all these little life lessons like that in a pretty low stakes environment. I see my role as the parent as guiding through how to deal with these things. Missed out on something you really want? It’s okay to be sad but life goes on and the world doesn’t end. You get to decide if you want to make this A Big Deal that ruins your week or let go and enjoy all the fun of B meets. Your friend got it instead of you? Let’s talk about how to be a good friend even if you’re disappointed. And let’s talk about focusing on improving your OWN times rather than comparing to others. Really want all the glory? That means showing up and working hard every day and sometimes just… waiting until you’re 8. But if it’s something you really want - start working hard!

I would not try to fix things for her or even get overly focused on motivating her to make it back in the A meets. I’d focus on helping her name the feelings and learn those lessons about friendship, playing the long game, finding joy and good experiences where you are, and focusing on herself.[/quote]

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