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[quote=Anonymous]I think the two main reasons that (mostly women) say this are to:

1.) Salve any feelings they have about "giving up" their own careers or lives to any extent to raise children of their own - if you became a SAHM or went part-time to have two kids and live in a suburb and feel feelings about that, vilifying others who did the complete opposite of that makes you feel better.

2.) Salve any feelings they have about wanting grandkids. If people, again...mostly women...say aloud that people should choose what they want and kids aren't essential for a full life and kids can hamper some people's best life, then maybe their own children will hear that and follow a childfree path. Which is devastating or horrifying to some people. I personally want to be a grandma, but not to the point that I want to force my only child into parenthood if they truly do not want it. Hard to think about.

I think a lot of people also force "duty" onto these - it is our duty to replace the population/do what our parents did for us/etc... but that is all silly. [/quote]

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