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[quote=Anonymous]If I were in the the parent's shoes, I would talk to my child and explain that I am very, very happy that my child is happy and that I think that they've found a great partner.  But I would say that I get overwhelmed by the partner, so I can only handle a certain amount of time and then need some alone time.  I can't imagine my child would have reached adulthood without realize that I was introverted and had troubles taking a large amount of extroverted behavior, so this should not be a surprise.  Then say that you want to be as encouraging and supportive as possible, so that they should not take your need for breaks to be anything other than a little personal care for myself.

I, myself, am an extrovert, who comes from a family of extroverts.  My spouse, however, is an introvert from a family of introverts.  We've handled this issue for nearly 25 years.  The point is that everyone understands that each person is an individual and has to take care of themselves and that the means by which they do so are not commentary or issues with other people or ways of handling things.  My spouse will take breaks from my family and go to the bedroom and read.  If I am tired of the quiet and solitude of family doing their own thing, then I head out and go someplace where there is more activity going on.  I used to just take the kids out to the playground or to a movie or out for ice cream just to get out of the house of people just sitting around quietly.  And we've all made it work and we all understand each other and we all adapt to being supportive of each other in our own way without judgment.

Be honest a out what you want and need and then work with the family members to find a way for everyone to be comfortable.[/quote]

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