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[quote=Anonymous]DH and moved across the country with our DDs several years ago, hours away by plane from where my parents live. We really don’t go back often because my parents are difficult people to be around, their house is uncomfortable, the town is painfully dull, and while I can tolerate it for a few days, he absolutely can’t stand it. He more or less refuses to go back there. I don’t want to go, but I try to go once a year to appease my parents. He comes along but this year he’s adamant that he’s doesn’t want to go. I don’t think he’s being totally unreasonable because I get it, it’s a boring town and my parents are not a joy to be around. That said, they visit us three or four times a year which is more than enough. Things would be easier if they retired someplace more enjoyable, but they’re still in the same house where they raised me and my siblings decades ago.

Is there any way to work this out? My mother is now trying to “force” us verbally to visit them this summer. I thought I’d give DH and myself a break and yeah, we’ve seen them three times so far this year.  DH said he’s not spending (wasting) his time off sitting in their house eating Chinese food (which is what we always do). I frankly don’t want to, either and I really don’t want to when the scene plays out in my head, how they start on negative topics and make comments about our bad area.

But they’re my parents. FWIW I don’t enjoy visiting them. Yeah, they’re  negative and depressing and live in the past. I’ve suggested short trips, but DH won’t budge and my Mom has a fit insisting we “must”
Stay a week. I wish they retired and found other ways to enjoy life but they live for my kids. They don’t have hobbies or other sources of joy. Can this be fixed? I’ve invited them to meet us at fun vacation spots but they’re not interested. The genus for listening. [/quote]

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