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[quote=Anonymous]My dear neighbor is in her mid 90s and still living in her own home and driving (whether or not she should be is not the point of this post). Her children live far away and visit as often as they can, but that only amounts to 4-5 visits a year.

She has dementia, but it mostly affects short term memory, and her personality is still happy and her sense of humor is in tact. She has led a fascinating life and has so much to share, and is incredibly empathetic too.

She will be moving into either independent or assisted living this fall, so this is her last summer as my neighbor. I’m spending lots of time with her- I visit at least twice a week for 1-2 hours, and I drop off food almost every day (no one has asked me to do this, but she gladly accepts the food every time) and will usually chat for a few moments.

It is such a privilege to be able to spend this time with her, time that her children are not getting with her. When they are here, they are always busy helping her with things that no one else can do for her, and often are teleworking at the same time. She’s a neighbor, not family, so there is no baggage with her. Luckily her health is quite good, aside from hearing and memory, so I don’t need to worry or try to assist with doctors appointments or anything (although I would if that were needed). I read this forum from time to time as a middle aged woman with my own parents who will need more care in the not so distant future. I’m glad that I have this positive experience with someone late in life, hopefully that will allow me to slow down and appreciate my parents more when that time comes. [/quote]

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