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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]S/O from the other thread about moms choosing which kids to invite and similar threads about the social aspect of parenting.

A lot of posters respond to threads like that with "the moms are friends"  and that moms are arranging friendships for their kids with the kids of the mothers they are friends with. [b]Other threads often offer the advice to not make friends with your kids friends' parents and keep a safe distance.
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So...which one is it? Make friends with other parents to make sure my kid is included? Or avoid making friends with other parents so it does not get too messy as the kids get older?

I am a normally outgoing person but have developed a weird social anxiety in parenthood. "Do they like me?" "Is my kid getting excluded? Are they getting excluded because of me?" "Am I am outcast among the mothers?"  Its dumb, I know.

I shouldn't depend on other parents for friendships, but as my kids get older, I realize all my free time is going to be spent with them and travel sports and school events. I have become jealous of the kids whose parents make friends with another set of parents and the kids all play together...are my kids doomed because of me or do I just wait until they are older? And do the dads matter in any of this or is all on the mothers?[/quote]

In my experience, the bolded is terrible advice. I'm not saying to force friendships with the mothers of your kid's friends but if you hit it off, they can be some of the best friends to have. I also have plenty of mom friends whose kids are not friends with mine and that's ok too. But to avoid making friends because of future potential drama makes no sense.

And yes, your kids will likely be left out of things if you don't make an effort to befriend their parents. Its just human nature to gravitate to the people you know best.[/quote]

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