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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wait, your friend recently lost her husband and she finally reached out to you? Have you been there for her at all?[/quote]

OP: You misunderstood. My friend lost her husband years ago and yes, I drove over there immediately when it happened. My DH got a bad diagnosis several months ago, which I informed my friend about. She only called to check on me this past week.[/quote]

You were not very clear. Not sure what the relevance is with her dead husband then.[/quote]

Not OP, but clearly the friend’s history is what could have made the conversation triggering for her (and perhaps self protection is what prevented  her from reaching out sooner).

She might dread having to watch you relive her experience (though hopefully, yours will go differently).

But you did nothing wrong.

Perhaps she can offer you support in ways that does not involving sharing details about your husband’s experiences . Feel her out. If you sense hesitation, then go to  other friends to vent, and use her for distraction, to enjoy activities you shared before his diagnosis. You can be friends still, but may need to go to different people to meet different needs. [/quote]

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