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[quote=Anonymous]Oh goodness, I was already doing all the things to take care of myself and lift my spirits , but close to a decade of sandwich generation with so many other life stressors was doing me in. This is morbid to say, but as parents passed away and we started to re-evaluate priorities things improved. Both my MIL and mother are far more difficult than FIL and my father (who have both passed). One parent got so abusive, at the urging of therapist I outsourced everything-even the management of her care. I needed to make sure she was safe and cared for, but I didn't need to be her verbal punching bag and I had a strong gut feeling if I didn't step back I would be her physical punching bag.

That made all the difference. I have a long list of stressors as does my husband-plenty worth getting out out the violins or sad trombones, but not having to deal with abuse made it all doable. I was becoming passively suicidal-would never harm myself, but thought a lot about how I would be fine if we all died together in a plane crash or something because then nobody would face abuse. Messed up thinking. Anyway sunshine came back to my life when I no longer would take another tantrum or as mentioned in another post "verbal stabbing." [/quote]

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