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[quote=Anonymous]You have to prioritize yourself and make time. I make long to do lists and include things for myself on them and actually choose to put off stuff I might do for work or my kids or the house in favor of doing something for myself. Like I will use personal leave and have my DH to pick up and figure out dinner so that I can go get a massage or go to an exercise class or grade a drink with a friend. Not all the time but a few times a month.

I also put exercise and other self care on my to do lists as a think I have to do. And I spend money and effort making may life feel good on the margins. I have really nice shampoo and conditioner and splurge on skincare. I buy really good loose tea and have nice dishes that make me happy when I use them. I buy good chocolate. And a hobby of mine is finding relatively unknown or new artists and buying small pieces from them. It brings me deep joy to discover some illustrator or painter and purchase a small piece and hang it in my house. It's not just the joy of loving that piece of art it's also the effort that went into finding the artist and choosing a piece that I know will live with me forever.

Also I often think of living this way as an important part of parenting. I have a daughter and I want her to see me living a full life for myself and not only in service to others. My own mom was and is a martyr and it's a terrible cycle because she will ignore her own needs in service to others and then demand appreciation and then the appreciation she gets is never enough. It's a toxic cycle and no one really benefits. I never wanted to do that to my kids. I take care of the but I also sometimes let the figure stuff out while I take care of myself.[/quote]

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