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[quote=Anonymous]My wife and I have a three year old daughter. For some context, she’s very close with my wife’s parents; they live 20 minutes away and we see them often. They are the stereotypical doting, loving grandparents; they’re very interactive with her and try to converse with her on her level (if that makes sense).

My parents are a two hour flight/10 hour drive. We see them maybe 3-4 times a year, but try to FaceTime periodically. They’re a bit more reserved. They’ll try to interact with her, but the way they talk to her it’s like they are trying to have a conversation with an adult, rather than a child. I’ve also found that they’ll talk to her for a bit, then want to talk about something else unrelated. That said, I know they do care about her.

The other day, I saw my Mom was calling, and asked my daughter “grandma is calling, do you want to talk to her?” My daughter said “no I don’t want to talk to her.” I asked her why not and she replied “because I don’t like her. She’s mean to me.” I have to admit I was taken a back a bit. I didn’t pick up the phone, but I just reiterated to DD that it’s okay if you don’t want to talk to people sometimes, but Grandma and Grandpa love her.

Ever since this happened, I’ve been having mixed feeling about how to approach it with my daughter. First of all, I have no reason to believe that my parents have said anything mean or unkind to Her. I want her to understand that yes, my parents may not be as much fun as my wife’s parents, but they still love her. On the other hand, she’s 3 (almost 4), and I want to respect and validate her feelings if she’s feeling uncomfortable around them.[/quote]

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