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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn't understand that my mom was probably BPD until after she died and then a few years after that. A therapist I had a long time ago mentioned in passing, but I didn't really pay much heed to it, largely because my family life was so different than what my life had become that I chalked the situation more up to that then to possible BPD.

Now I am more aware. My mom had some different challenges and this clearly was another. I'm still able to have compassion even though all us kids and our dad were harmed in many ways. If she had been older, if my parents had been much better off, perhaps she would have sought treatment. But none of that happened and here I am with my own demons.

That said, she did largely fine in the nursing home. The staff were attuned to who would set her off and they arranged meal seatings accordingly. And she wasn't the only one who had a short trigger with some other residents. There were some bothered by her and at least one who tried to pinch stuff from her room.

TBH, I think nursing home staff see a lot of this and, ideally, they are able to handle, redirect, etc. The staff in my mom's wing were very good. My mom wasn't their easiest resident but she wasn't the most difficult and when she was with it, she was probably quick, funny, and appreciative of their efforts.[/quote]

Thank you, this was very helpful to read.  And good point---my mom can definitely be funny when she wants to be. I keep hearing about how "cute" she is.[/quote]

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