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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my family’s case, the executor went in and t[b]ook lots of items with value for herself and is now selling them a few at a time, keeping the money for herself.[/b] Kind of a sneaky way of getting some more money out of the estate than the other beneficiaries.

So if the executor for your parents’ estate has a tendency to be sneaky, watch out. [/quote]

[b]She's also storing them and taking the time to research and list them.  Don't underestimate the cost of that.[/b]

In our case, we had one sibling that was local and two siblings that lived in other parts of the country.    There were only a few items that we had sentimental reasons for wanting to keep, and none of us argued over who got what.
"Valuables" like china and collectibles really aren't so valuable to most people and can take forever to find the right buyer.   We didn't have time or desire to wait for that so the local sibling just took a few very quick pictures and put an ad on facebook market place for an extremely low amount (I think like $100 for what could be thousands of dollars of china/collectibles.)   Some guy came and took it all....my brother even let him just look around and see if there was anything else he wanted to take so that helped get rid of a lot of stuff.
He listed big pieces of furniture like dining sets and beds for free and was able to get i out of the house the same day.

If I were you, OP, and you know a few specific things that you want for sentimental reasons, just specifically ask.   You siblings should do the same.[/quote]

In my family’s case, the executor changed the locks and wouldn’t let all of the other beneficiaries in to “help.” At least one other sibling offered to do all the work of getting appraisals and was turned down. The executor took things and hid things from the others, told them that she had had everything disposed of by the cleaning crew. Beneficiaries asked about certain items and were told that everything had been trashed or taken by the crew.

Now, a few years later, we have found out that the sneaky executor is selling items of value that she claimed had gone into the trash.  She is not providing a benefit for the estate, she is just keeping the money for herself. 
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