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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Contribute a nominal amount, make the rich brother take the lead in dealing with her about this. Set boundaries, financial and emotional. As long as she is physically able to work and pay her bills, no financial help should be forthcoming. She may live to be 85 — there is no reason to help her financially until she is physically unable to work.[/quote]

this is excellent advice. you cannot let her drag you down and you cannot let your richer brother guilt you into thinking it has to be equal. you can help in other ways if necessary.

I had a similar family dynamic and ultimately had to tell everyone (repeatedly) that I was not giving a single cent to our spendthrift father. It was quite clear that he would waste the money. If he had been totally destitute and had no other kids then I would have helped- but he wasn’t destitute and had my brothers. Like you I was much more estranged than my other siblings and I felt untroubled that they took the financial burden (they have plenty of money). sure that meant hearing complaints about “free loaders” but I just ignored them. [/quote]

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