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I saw a therapist from 2005 - 2009.  We were in a Bible study together and were also acquaintances.

I was allowed to email and call him as much as I wanted, though he didn’t always answer calls.  I called a lot.

He said that he was my spiritual father figure and that he would disciple me through life decisions and in my spiritual growth.  He often told me that he loved me, but I always worried that he was mad at me.

He lived an hour away from me, so sometimes when I was in his town, I spent the night with his family.

I didn’t get far in therapy.  My therapist said it was because I wasn’t willing to give up control.

Of course, 2009 was a long time ago.  I’ve now moved to DC and have a new therapist.  I haven’t ever called this new therapist, but he does allow emails twice a week, so I send him notes.

I recently sent my new therapist some old emails from my old therapist.  I never noticed how much my old therapist said he loved me and how much he tried to guide me, though a lot of it was in a spiritual warfare context, which I didn’t agree with.

I sent a note to my old therapist apologizing for calling him so much and treating him abusively…but now I’m thinking that my old therapist was possibly abusive to me by not having boundaries.

I’m worried my new therapist will think less of me for having such a close relationship with my previous therapist.

I think, though, that I do better with clear boundaries.  I am learning and growing so much now.  Something is working correctly now.

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