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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you’re going to throw away a decade+ of marriage and go through hell, because you don’t like therapy?!?  
Try therapy first. At the very least, it may then make the divorce process less painful and contentious if he isn’t willing to change/stop yelling.
Or who knows, you may save your marriage and bring back the love. Stress wreaks havoc on marriages. Sadly I’m going through one now[/quote]

Right - I did not even start anything and it already feels like hell.  We had bumpy times in the past and then made up. I could never go through it. Now I want to be strong and get through it.  He keeps yelling and I’m physically sick of it.  It hurts more somehow now that you are older.[/quote]

21:19 here.  Of COURSE it hurts more when you are older.  You think to yourself "Damn, I am X years old and this bozo is going to be yelling at me and making my life miserable for HOW MANY more years?"  So one day you pack up, you tell your friends and family that's it guys, I'm out, and THEN he starts thinking that "oh maybe I haven't been a good husband."  That's how some men (people?) are.  Stupid and inconsiderate.  But maybe you can forgive them for the sake of your kids, your finances, your social status, your vows, whatever happens to matter to you and keep you with this person.  I still love my husband so it is not so bad but he was mean and he was stupid and he almost destroyed our marriage because he was grumpy or having a midlife crisis or whatever.[/quote]

Thanks for your post.  I am sorry you went through mean phase too. I’m tired of forgiving. It’s sad — one day it just kills your spirit completely.  Yes, I can go and run half marathon - it won’t help.  This feels like a long term trauma. And I don’t know the way out yet.  I know what it is - why it feels wrong.
Because you know you want out and you are scared at the same time.  I’m scared of the unknown.  Before - I would be embracing it. And now it’s sort of in the way - immobilizing of sorts.

I will come back here tomorrow.

Agreed - one day at a time.  Maybe even portion of a day at a time.[/quote]

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