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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it makes good sense and if he's decent, it would make him respect you more rather than less. It's too bad that women have to factor all this in.

Instead of apologizing, why not frame it more as you did here--

Hey, I realize I may have come across as challenging you and I absolutely did not mean it to come across that way, especially in front of the team. Let's have a 5 minute catchup before xyz to make sure we're on the same page and I can show support, or question in an appropriate and constructive way? Sound good?[/quote]

Don't add injury to insult by wasting boss's team in a mini struggle session. 
Don't ask questions that pressure the other person to affirm their acceptance. That's pushy.
Tell, don't ask.

Send a quick note like "Hi Bossy Boss,
I noticed that things got little heated in the meeting yesterday. 
I apologize that in the moment I wasn't able to express myself with the calm and clarity that I intend.
I appreciate your feedback on my ideas about X (Be specific about something they said that you agree with.). I've added Y into my plan to blah blah. Let me know how I can help with Z."

Acknowledge what happened, but don't dwell on it. Focus on moving forward as a team, not ruminating on the past.

Send a similar note to any other individual you might have been rude or harsh to.
Adjust to fit the scenario.

I've had a lot of tense conversations with coworkers when someone  is doing something wrong. Everyone is happier and friendlier after you express support for their goals and offer your assistance. A tiny bit of productive labor to help them wins them back to your team. [/quote]

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