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[quote=Anonymous]I mean, you do you, but I don't think her moral failings with respect to her infidelity makes her someone you can't be friends with. That's fine if you want to take the moral high ground and act like you're better than her and you'd never cheat on your husband, but it sounds to me like your friend has been struggling with a difficult marriage for years, and what she does with other men has no bearing on her friendship with you.

I've never cheated on anyone or been cheated on (to my knowledge), I can't fathom ever cheating and doing that to my husband and family, and I would be devastated if my husband ever cheated on me. However, I also don't throw stones and act like I'm better than anyone else who is in a situation I can't really comprehend. Your friend has acted out with men as a response to being in a bad marriage. I'm not excusing that behavior, but I am saying you're acting a bit self-righteous about the whole thing and maybe you could find it in you to actually just be a friend. If not, then cut her loose because she doesn't need you to judge her while pretending to be her friend.

And yes, I have a very close friend of 25 years who cheated on her husband. It didn't change how I feel about her despite the fact that I think it was the wrong thing to do. I wasn't in her shoes, and she didn't cheat on me, so I'm still her friend and am helping her through her divorce because I care about her more than I care about my ability to trumpet that I would NEVER do something like that in order to make myself feel morally superior. But again, you do you. [/quote]

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