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DC1 has ADHD/ASD and has worked 50 times as hard as DC2, who is gifted and achieves effortlessly.

I praise effort, not achievement. DC1 has not, and may never, receive the praise and accolades that DC2 has received.

Yet this works to both their advantage, actually:

1. DC1 has learned the hard lesson that achievement and productivity is valued in this world, regardless of work ethic, and he has to move at his own pace and do the best he can. He has developed incredibly resiliency and doesn't compare himself to others. He isn't gnawed by envy and jealousy.

2. DC2 has been humbled by seeing how hard her brother works, for much less. She has seen his struggles, and has developed a lot more compassion for others than she would have had otherwise. Her competitiveness and natural tendency to gloat and sneer have been corrected as she's grown to admire her brother's dogged persistence. And you know what? Life has thrown her a curveball too: she's been diagnosed with a chronic physical disease.

Find the silver linings, OP.

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