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[quote=Anonymous]Hello, just want some honest insight: 
My brother and I and my sister in law have had a wonderful relationship for over 20 years. Three years ago however we had a falling out and till this day I do not know the reason why. In 2020 my father and my sister in law along with my brother made a reverse mortgage, my father wanted my brother to have the home (actually for granddaughter as she is the only grandchild) and reversed mortgaged it to him for 1 million dollars (it is worth more), after 5 months my parents changed their mind and decided they did not want to reverse mortgage and paid the money back.  My father originally offered the reverse mortgage to my brother because he wanted to give the property to the only grandchild, he also needed some money.  My father helped my brother and sister in law for over a year supporting them financially while they went to medical school and even gifted them their first home (he always told them that the money was a loan). But after 5 months my father and my mom decided reverse mortgage was a wrong decision and they asked to cancel it.  My brother and sister in law cancelled it and seemed okay with it and my parents gave the money back that they collected for the 5 months but my brother and sister in law gave the money back to my father stating it was payback for the year my father supported them through school-- they paid my parents about $67,000. Everything seemed okay but after my parents cashed the check they are no longer talking to my parents or to me (only sister). My mom told my sister in law while they were on vacation together explaining why she wanted to cancel the reverse mortgage, my mom told my sister that first it was a rash decision, second, it was unfair to their sister and third, we had an aunt in law who screwed the family up on my mothers side where our grandfather did the same thing and the aunt took everything, so my mom explained to her this was the reason why she no longer wanted to do the reverse mortgage. Everything seemed okay as they all enjoyed a nice vacation together but soon after my parents cashed the check they no longer talk to us. I tried reaching out to my brother asking why he no longer talks to us and he responded that he was sick and tired of my mom treating his wife poorly. I did not understand why he said this comment as my mother has given my sister in law money, jewelry, expensive watches, even a home.  I have asked them both to have an open discussion and try to resolve the issues all together as we are family but now they completely shut us off and no longer let my parents see their only granddaughter.  The only text my brother sent was "We want nothing to do with any one of you.  Enjoy your lives, leave us alone." I would ask repeatedly before this text to at least give us one reason why and till this day he has not told us why. I want to have closure for me and my old parents, they wonder everyday why... Can you guys help us get some peace...and tell us what you think? Did they cut us off because...
A.  My mother told my sister in law about our scandalous aunt taking everything and she felt maybe it was insulting to her? 
B.  My parents changed their mind after 5 months of accepting money on the reverse mortgage?
C.  They paid my parents back the money they borrowed and feel sore about it?
D.  They want nothing to do with my parents because they are old and my brother and sister in law are now very successful and wealthy?
E.   Your insight_______[/quote]

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