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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Any tips for determining a reasonable division of labor when it comes to assisting elderly parents?

What about when only one sibling is nearby?

What about when all siblings are relatively nearby but one never/rarely steps up? How do you preserve good relationships when one sibling never helps or only does the bare minimum when asked? Honestly, I am trying to broker peace among siblings—one is doing the heavy lifting, the other only helps occasionally despite being asked to do more. Long story short: the helpful sibling is ready to cut the unhelpful sibling out completely in terms of no longer wanting to celebrate holidays together, etc. I’m trying to broker peace for the sake of the grandkids/cousins, but it’s hard given how selfish the one sibling has been. [/quote]

Why aren't they stepping up?  I planned to take care of my parents and my sibling went behind my back and got POA and executor.  When one parent died, they did a money grab, gave all the stuff away and I got nothing.  The other parent fully supported them.  They were clear they'd do the same with the other parent and make sure I got nothing.  So, yup, they can do 100% of everything which means that parent will be neglected and not cared for.  The parent knows, it's on them for treating me like they did.

For my MIL, I took care of her for years till she died.  My husband's sibling did nothing.  It is what it is.[/quote]

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