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[quote=Anonymous]I've posted on here before about my mom.

My mom was 71.   My parents were living in their house (had been there about 20 years) and it was during Covid.   She already had been diagnosed with dementia but the isolation and loss of services probably made it worse--or ate least more noticeable to my dad/siblings and I. 
 She was very mobile-which was a problem because she was wandering a lot.   She would forget who my Dad was and would run out of the house in a panic, telling the neighbors there was a strange man in her house.  She was also getting aggressive and violent with my dad.
My dad really didn't want the lock down and restrictions of memory care (which was even stricter during covid) and so they tried living in an apartment in assisted living, but after a few weeks it was obvious my mom needed memory care.  I think my dad had been "covering" for my mom a lot when they lived in their house but with all the staff/other residents in memory care there were a lot of witnesses to my mom's behavior;  employees saw my mom being violent with my dad and the manager told my dad and sibling that he would have to call adult protective services.

So she moved in memory care.   Due to Covid there were a lot of restrictions on visitors, including my dad, and he didn't deal with that well.   After about a year her physical health deteriorated and she was no longer mobile, at all.   The risk of "elopement" was no longer a factor so they moved into an apartment in a 55+ community and he hired a caregiver to provide round the clock care.  She passed away about a year later.[/quote]

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