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[quote=Anonymous]Disclaimer: this is NOT a humble brag. Also, I'm still forming my thoughts on this so take it easy on me.

TLDR: does my child's intelligence cause or contribute to her struggles, and will her life in general be harder?

The other day I saw someone point out that an IQ of 130 is as far away from average as an IQ of 70. I thought an IQ of 130 was high but not *that* high; after all, two percent of the population is still a hell of a lot of people. But my perspective changes when I think about it in terms of deviation from average (or median? I dunno).

Somebody with an IQ of 70 has a perspective and struggles that I don't really understand. Are people with an IQ of &gt;130 living in a world that is hard to understand if you're closer to average? And we all know that if you are raising a child with an IQ of 70 you are going to have different expectations than you will if you are raising an average child. Should our expectations (and hopes and dreams) for high IQ kids be different too?

DD has an IQ of 132, and in the verbal section is was 141 or something. She's 15 and goodness she has always been so hard to parent. Dx'd with ADHD, ASD level 1, anxiety, and depression. Our current struggles: she is barely passing her classes despite tons of accommodations and support for ADHD and emotional issues, shows little interest in a traditional successful career path, argues with me about basic things like how I think she should get her hair cut professionally instead of going around with the chop job she did herself, her room is seriously unhygienic, etc. My other child, whose IQ I don't know but I imagine is lower, shows interest in getting good grades, having a career, going to college, etc. Also, he does things like immediately clean up his spills, brush his teeth a full two minutes without a fight, etc. He too has ADHD and emotional issues, but I'm sure his future will be fine. His ADHD and emotional issues are there but don't interfere with his life to the extent that DD's do.

DD has done so much therapy and we are on the waitlist for PHP. We have done all the ADHD, anxiety, and depression stuff. I'm wondering if any posters here have tailored their parenting approaches to help kids with high IQs? Those who have kids who think they can just reason their way through life instead of also living and experiencing it? [/quote]

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