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[quote=Anonymous]Millennial here. My brother in law is in his mid-30s and has only ever dated, mostly non-seriously. He had one serious girlfriend when he was 31, they met each others' parents, and they even talked about getting married. But ultimately, they didn't have the same idea of what a relationship is. She wanted to party and go out with him and all their friends all the time, and he sometimes wanted to spend time with just her.

What I've seen is a sort of unwillingness to grow [i]with[/i] another person. Relationships require a lot of compromise and what I see most from my brother in law and other people I know who date, but don't settle down (whether that's marriage or just long-term relationships), seems to be a basic misunderstanding of relationships. He seems to expect to find a fully-developed person who complements his own fully-developed self, like his mindset is "I am who I am and you are who you are and we either work together as a couple or we don't, but neither of us is going to do work on ourselves to make this relationship successful."

On one hand, it's great to know yourself, and those people are less likely to lose their sense of self in a relationship. On the other hand, two people who want to share a life have to be willing to compromise.[/quote]

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