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[quote=Anonymous]		Does he work stupid op? What I mean is that he had to know his old company was closing, and you need to understand that he knew. He may have believed their platitudes, and that’s  fine, we all do something dumb once in awhile. 
What I don’t understand is why you think this pay cut is temporary. Where is he working and why so many unexpected late nights? Can he work from home or find a job that will let him work from home? 
I had to fight like a tiger to get my husband to consider working from home, my God was he stubborn. Now that he is working from home, I’m way more chill about unexpected work events. 
Your husband has secured the worst of all worlds, less money, more work and you can’t predict the order of your days. You have every right to be resentful and to tell him what you need him to do. First up, he needs to look for another job. If he doesn’t find one, he’s still employed and the new boss may just do exactly what he said he’s going to do. If he does find another job, then great, he’s found another job. 
As for you, how are you able to work overtime just because you want to? Many employers including my husband’s wouldn’t let you do that because of their own budget. I’m trying to figure out how your husband got a job with low pay and long unpredictable hours and you have a job where you can work overtime not because the company needs it but because your husband may have been an idiot. 
You have every right to feel resentful. Now, you need to take those feelings, put them into concrete actions and tell your husband what he needs to be doing. At a minimum, he needs to be working from home at least when he’s working late, getting more money if he can’t work from home, think doctor or something, or he needs predictability in his schedule. If he’s at a loss for all of these, then he’s getting screwed, or he isn’t working, op. Is there a possibility there is more going on? 
For now, just assume he works stupid and try and talk to him. All he needs to do at this point is start looking for another job and talk to his boss. Some are great once they realize they’ve got a good employee. [/quote]

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