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[quote=Anonymous]NP here, I agree with 11:40.  Having been on the other side of things as the person losing their job and needing to find a new one, my DH was incredibly supportive and I realized how fortunate I was in spouse and kids.  I felt like we were a team in dealing with the impacts of starting a new job - less flexibility and looking at budget/money when I knew my company was closing.

If your DH is telling you how much he appreciates the extra effort you are making and you are both working together with the unpredictable schedule and now to budget/make the numbers work, blame the ex-employer and take on the us (up you and DH) against the world type mentality. If he is banking on promotion and leaving all the extra work on you …and isn’t offering to do more on the weekends or whenever he does have time to make up for the unpredictable times and isn’t working with you to figure out how to save money, that’s the issue.  if he was on his own with the kids he would have had to figure something out so I don’t think it would be fair for you to shoulder 100% unless you had explicit conversations and offered.[/quote]

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