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[quote=Anonymous]I get harassed at every job. I’m not sure why I invite this behavior. Perhaps it is my style or demeanor (I am quiet and non assertive).

I have very long bleach blonde hair and I’m in my mid 20s now. I am thin, but I dress so conservatively. And I don’t even think my face is that beautiful or anything, but I think my hair may exacerbate the problem.

My last job was the worst so far. One supervisor (who is 30 years my senior) started harassing me and pushing boundaries with me. I think he told other male coworkers about his behavior, since a group of them started being inappropriate with me and ganging up on me. He was frequently leering at me, openly staring at my chest and legs, touching my back or hair, and trying to be alone with me constantly. He would also offer me rides home constantly (after I mentioned that I take Uber to work, since I was only 5 mins away). And he’d constantly push me to be alone with him at his office or invite me to events outside work.

The more I pushed back against his advances, the more he tried to openly humiliate me or revoke responsibilities from me. However, if I allowed the harassment to continue, he would begin bestowing more opportunities on me and warming up to me more. I think he was telling his friends that I was open to harassment, because suddenly more of them were finding every excuse to get me alone in their offices, winking at me, and leering at me. I felt so uncomfortable. Even coworkers who I initially trusted (who were ostensibly nice and safe) started to act like frat boys and made me feel so demeaned.

I felt like the situation was escalating out of control, so I just quit. And many other women quit before me. I was told they had “strong personalities” (lol) so I guess they just wouldn’t put up with the ongoing harassment.

I don’t know why I invite such a lack of respect in every work environment. I get harassed at EVERY job or volunteer opportunity. I worked as a receptionist at a freaking Neonatal Intensive Care Unit in college and the amount of FATHERS who would flirt with me at my desk (while their wives and extremely sick babies were feet away) made me disgusted. And these women had ZERO clue what their husbands were doing. One man very handsome too, with a beautiful wife (I felt like I was uglier than his wife), yet he would make an excuse to leave the babies room to come harass me at my desk, calling me pretty, and seeming to get off on making me visibly uncomfortable.

I’ve been harassed by Catholic priests (more than one), men at religious charities, at internships, at customer service jobs. This has been ongoing since I was a teenager. I don’t know why I’m such a target, but it feels like I am harassed more than average. I’ve left every job and volunteer opportunity due to ongoing harassment. It reaches a boiling point where I’m too anxious to stay anymore. [/quote]

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