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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your husband speaks to you as if you were a child.  You need to let him know that you are not a child, you are his partner, and house rules do not get decided without you.  I agree that counseling is in order.  You also need to practice asserting yourself.  Now.

For instance, when your husband quotes a house rule, do you ever respond "When did THAT get decided?  Because I don't remember being consulted."

Or when he says "We don't cut bread there."  How about saying "Who is we?  Because I cut bread there all the time."

Really, this situation cannot go on.  
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Honestly, OP. You are trying to work rationally with someone who is well beyond rational. My DX was livid at how I cut tomatoes. Helllloooo? Tomatoes. When his friend broke and then threw out a Tiffany vase of mine, DX told me that I had too much stuff to begin with. What? It took a good long while, OP, for me to call this controlling behavior, constant monitoring, and condescension what it was: Abuse.

Get thee to a counselor TODAY.

You don't deserve to be bullied like this. Cutting you off from your support network is a classic abuser tactic. Pick up The Gift of Fear to read before your therapist appointment. Being told daily that you're just not good enough is no way to live.

God speed, Sister.

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