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[quote=Anonymous]I am so very tired of my husband, sometimes I think he might have OCPD, but sometimes I think it is just me being unorganized. We have fun together most of the time when we out of the house and he is a good dad to our baby, he's very kind, generous about things he approves (e.g. nail salons, massages, good restaurants, clothes shopping) but it is when we are at home we can't get along. He is very particular and I keep forgetting all the house rules, so he follows me and directs me. E.g., in just one evening: "we don't cut bread on this board, how many times I should tell you", "why can't you put your cup in the dishwahser right away", "why did you put milk on this shelf? there is a designated spot for it", "honey, you put this hook in the bathroom, it looks out of place, let's take it of", "I think you had enough candy for today. let me take away the rest of it", "no, I think the baby is fine, I am not going to fix his bed on your whim", "this pot has a chip on it's top, I know your friend had given it to you, but it's broken, mind if I throw it away?" "omg, there are bread crumbs on the floor, did you see them, omg bread crumbs" "oh and these cups that you mom gave us, can she take them back? I think I don't like them after all". 
He demanded I take off the poster I liked from the bathroom wall; there is no way I can buy souvenirs when travelling or he'll throw a tantrum,  he argues about the color of the floor mat for the guest bathroom; he demands I press keys on the keyboard in a specific way and gets upset when I forget; he vetoed all the names for the baby that I liked even though he said he liked them when I was not yet pregnant, he watches what I eat, knows how much I weight (I am slim, I honestly am) and makes this very sad face when I pick up a box of ice cream from the store freezer,  fights with me in the store if I pick up something he does not consider healthy; he rushes to the kitchen sink first thing when he gets home to see whether I cleaned it,  hides gifts from my friends if he thinks they are useless and should not be on display;  does not let me make any decision about the furniture placement; flips out if I spill water etc. etc. etc. What does not help things is that I am very oblivious to many things, I like candy, and Iam unorganized. I honestly can think I cleaned up and he comes home and lectures me about not putting things on their place, I am frequently late and if he's late because of me, he won't speak to me entire evening.  I am so so tired. I am trying to change, but I instead I start to resent him. I am looking forward to his business trips, I hide my candy, I take off the dress that he asks me not to wear, but put it back on when he leaves the house. 
I am tired people, I am honestly tired of him. What can I do? What should I do?[/quote]

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