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[quote=Anonymous]I’m about to be in your situation.

I don’t really care so much about socializing with other parents, and basically don’t put much stock in what they might think. Maybe figure out what the stakes of these interactions seem to be for you?

One thing that has helped me is making plans to hang out in a nearby city where I have some friends but no one knows me as a mom/wife. I’m enjoying feeling like my pre-marriage single self again and having experiences I associate with another period in my life. I am restarting some hobbies and generally trying to use this time as a creative reset to consider life outside of the frame that people think it should be in. A lot of this is about shoulds. Have the strength to question those implicit norms, see yourself outside of how you subconsciously judge yourself.

What really gets me is when I hang out one on one with close friends and their entire family, including kids and husband. That I find very hard and sad, I feel like someone looking in from the outside at a dream I once thought I had. But I remind myself that like PP said my choice took courage and we don’t know where this road will lead.

Hugs, OP. You’ve gone through a trauma. [/quote]

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