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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A fantasy is just that... a fantasy.  Nothing about it is real, it's all in your mind.  I fantasize a lot when I am horny, and in your 40s you are horny a lot.  You can also give your husband that horny energy and if he's into it, maybe you will eventually find yourself fantasizing about him.

That said, how good is your marriage really?  My crushes often come during a rough patch in my marriage.  There were a lot of things that needed fixing at one point and the crush was a reflection of that.

If it's really bothering you, just go to therapy.  You can do CBT or whatever and learn to control your thoughts better.[/quote]

My husband is definitely already enjoying this horny phase ;) so that's not an issue. And I am attracted to him and do think about him, but we've been together for nearly 20 years, so I don't know that it's possible not *fantasize* about him. He's right over there. I got him. He's not my fantasy, he's a reality.

I don't think the crush is the result of a marital issue. I think our marriage is in the best place it's been in years, actually. It wasn't bad before, but we had some down years during Covid and aftermath just due to too much time together, parenting very little kids, and being stressed. Since we got through that, I feel like we've been in a great place.

I am mostly asking if it will just run its course. Surely, like crushes I had when I was young, one day I'll start wondering what I was so excited about to begin with and the spell will be broken. I remember having a crush on a professor in college like that, and another on a classmate in grad school, and once it passed I couldn't even tell you exactly what it was that had made me crush on them to begin with. Hoping this one is like that.

In the meantime, I'm so distracted! It's very unproductive.[/quote]

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