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[quote=Anonymous]I have an avoidant attachment style. My husband has an anxious attachment style. He says doesn’t feel loved, and I hear it and I want to change, because I do love him and I want him to feel more secure. But I just honestly feel dead inside, and it’s not like I am deliberately withholding—I just need to be told what to do, and I will put everything towards that. After years of “free to me” therapy that just didn’t take, I am finally on a waiting list for someone highly recommended (and expensive!!) to help me process and recover from my past (which I believe has driven me to be so avoidant). But I don’t want to make him wait, so for all you anxious-to-secure types, what can I start doing today to make my DH feel better? We already have a lot of sex. He is not unhappy with our sex life. He actually turns it down sometimes because he thinks I have sex to placate him and he wants more than just sex.[/quote]
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