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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Postpartum doula and Ncs here -this advice is garbage please hold your baby!

1. You can't spoil a baby 
2. A more secure attachment leads to more independent kids not the other way around 
3. Daytime sleep and overnight sleep use a different part of the brain- many many families successfully sleep train overnight when age appropriate and continue to contact, stroller, carrier nap during the day - some want it, some out of necessity( multiple kids, school pick up...)
4. Your Ncs should never be guilting or shaming you

The danger comes if you're sleep deprived trying to hold them all night long. But if you are awake and not at risk for falling asleep then please contact nap with your child. [/quote]

+1 to all of this, and if you want some anecdotal evidence:

My DD took many, many naps as an infant in my arms or a carrier. After 3 months, she'd take her first and sometimes second nap of the day in her crib, but her afternoon nap was usually in the stroller or carrier because it got me out of the house (I had PPD and this was important for my mental health). We did not cosleep at night but she did sleep in our room until about 10 months, and I continued to nurse her at night if she woke up (against the pediatrician's stern advice) until about 1 year.

I now have a 7 year old who has always been a great sleeper, never given us difficulty at bedtime, is independent and confident, and we have a great relationship (loving and affectionate, but also she trusts me and mostly does what I ask).

If some piece of infant advice just feels *wrong* and it's an issue where many people disagree, I say go with your gut. This will come up again and again. You need to trust your own parenting instincts. If it's something where you are a huge outlier, that's a good time to maybe turn to an expert and try it their way. But for something like this, if your heart is saying to hold the baby during naps, do it![/quote]

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