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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]					Why isn’t your wife handling this? 
It infuriates me when someone says “I can’t make them call back”. While it’s true, it’s also lazy, we’ve all had to push for what we wanted and needed so that phrase really means “I just don’t care, I’m just saying it in a nicer way”. 
I also think women are better at this, we have to do it with ourselves, our kids, our husbands, we just seem to need to do it more I’ve noticed so we learn how to do it. 
I’d have your wife handle things and when she can’t, she’ll tell you. We had a vendor that didn’t like women. We wanted the service, I knew the problem, the vendor when talking with me gave me different answers than what he gave my husband. I then realized the owner who was also the guy I was talking to wouldn’t be the one coming out so I had my husband make an appointment and the tech came out and all was well. 
We also had an issue with our cleaners that I was able to handle an issue with our cleaners better than my husband. Plus, I didn’t like the refund he got or how he wanted to handle it. He wanted to wait until morning, I wanted a picture of what they broke sent to them as soon as I realized they broke it. I also wanted to know the price of the repair whereas he just guessed at a price which was low anyway, not that I’ve supported a high price, that would be unethical, I just wanted the correct price of the repair and I had that within minutes.

I’d say break out the tasks. If you take better pictures, take them and send to your wife to talk to people. If she is the better talker, she’ll get what needs to be done happening. If she can’t talk because she’s dealing with a turkey, you get the person needed to come out, the product shipped, whatever it is. 
Also, keep your differences out of it. My husband thought I was overreacting, turns out I wasn’t, the cleaners initially tried to blame my son who was with me at ball practice. Had I waited too long, I’d not have remembered where he was at. My husband also is more religious than I am. He told me I needed to thank God this was our only problem. He was right, but as I told him “I need to document this problem with time time stamps, then I’ll deal with God” and I meant it, I did need to document the problem and I did say a prayer of thanks… after the cleaner had gotten those pictures along with what happened. 
I still had to spend an hour on the phone talking with the boss, but at least she literally had the picture and as I told her “I know where my son was last evening, and so does his coach. I’m going to court if you don’t refund the entire cleaning and I have pictures of what was broken, I have video footage of your crew when they were here and when they left, and I have video footage of my son and I leaving and my son and I coming back.. you will loose in small claims court and I am happy to take you there”. I meant every word and the boss decided that yes, she’d really like to refund us. 
Husband is great, he just doesn’t have that skill set. He views threatening to sue as not nice, I view it as a means to resolve a problem when the only language someone speaks is legal. I also know that if I make the threat I need to follow through and I always have what I need before I make that statement. I’m not mean or out for money, I just won’t be treated badly by a vendor. 
					Why isn’t your wife handling this? 
It infuriates me when someone says “I can’t make them call back”. While it’s true, it’s also lazy, we’ve all had to push for what we wanted and needed so that phrase really means “I just don’t care, I’m just saying it in a nicer way”. 
I also think women are better at this, we have to do it with ourselves, our kids, our husbands, we just seem to need to do it more I’ve noticed so we learn how to do it. 
I’d have your wife handle things and when she can’t, she’ll tell you. We had a vendor that didn’t like women. We wanted the service, I knew the problem, the vendor when talking with me gave me different answers than what he gave my husband. I then realized the owner who was also the guy I was talking to wouldn’t be the one coming out so I had my husband make an appointment and the tech came out and all was well. 
We also had an issue with our cleaners that I was able to handle an issue with our cleaners better than my husband. Plus, I didn’t like the refund he got or how he wanted to handle it. He wanted to wait until morning, I wanted a picture of what they broke sent to them as soon as I realized they broke it. I also wanted to know the price of the repair whereas he just guessed at a price which was low anyway, not that I’ve supported a high price, that would be unethical, I just wanted the correct price of the repair and I had that within minutes.

I really hate to say this but I feel bad for your family and people that have to deal with you, though I suspect it's a point of pride for you[/quote]

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