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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see the families that vacation together there’s aunts and uncles and cousins. They get the beach houses or take the flights to Europe, tropical places, etc and just seem to be having the best time.[/quote]

I don't think this is very common. My parents and ILs both have many siblings, so there are many cousins on both sides. Both families grew up poor, which is not unconnected: kids are expensive and moms stayed home to care for them. I saw local cousins often but did not vacation with them, and actually the fact my parents could afford vacations was a point of friction. At the counsin generation, people are doing better financially but also having fewer kids. All the adult cousins are scattered geographically so we see each other rarely and our kids don't really know each other. We get together for a Christmas party about once every other year -- and it's really fun! But not the level of connectedness you are describing.

If you want travel buddies, make friends with same-age kids and similar incomes/interests. Travel with them.

If you want close cousin relationships I think the keys are geographic proximity and adult siblings getting along very well. Your chances are way better if the adult siblings are sisters rather than brothers: of course men can prioritize extended family, but culturally it's less likely and so the default is to see the mom's family. [/quote]

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