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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you both need to do some serious thinking while he’s on this trip. I never understand why people want to partner with people they argue with all the time. A successful relationship shouldn’t be that volatile. [/quote]

OP here.  I think we argue a lot for a combination of reasons. 1) I think I have attachment issues due to a very "unsafe" feeling childhood with a lot of benign neglect and volatile parents 2) He does a lot of things that make me feel unsafe, like talking to girls he used to hook up with, snapchatting girls, etc. He lets me see his phone whenever so it's not that he's actually cheating with these women but it still drives me up a wall, I lash out, etc. And whenever I retreat from the relationship and want space (like sleeping in a separate bed) it really triggers him in response. In a way we bring out the worst in each other. [/quote]

Then why are you even considering “next steps?” As PP said, love is not enough. Perhaps your BF has come to that realization. You’re not even married nor do you have kids together - this should be the “honeymoon” period but the two of you are fighting constantly. Time to rethink things.[/quote]

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