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[quote=Anonymous]Worked for us.  Three kids.  Trial lawyer with full caseload that also managed a litigation section and VP level healthcare administrator.  We used daycare and did not really have babysitters or anything but very occasional help - like once a year or so in real emergencies, not for like late to daycare pick up type “emergencies”, which we never had because we didn’t allow that to happen.  (Only time we were late was when the roads flooded and no one could get there).  We had an every other week housecleaner and probably didn’t do much cleaning in between. One summer we got someone to do the yard, but that was more trouble than it was worth for us.

Two of my kids have special needs and required therapies and IEPs.  That was managed by doing an alternative work schedule so that I had off one day every other week and handling those therapies that could not b done during the evenings and weekends.  That worked because there were/are rarely substantive matters handled on Fridays in court in this area and if there were, I just got them moved.  That was a pain, but manageable.

Key to making things work for us was never duplicating functions, not bean counting as to who is doing more in household chores and child related duties, being really organized, not sweating the small stuff and realizing that most stuff is small stuff.  We both knew our roles/lanes, which were developed based on what we were good at, what we liked to do and what we had time for.

And, we never forgot/forget to have fun and we never forgot/forget to be nice to each other and understand that we are doing the best we can.   
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