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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you have talked to your in-laws about it what have they said?

One thing you can do is be totally matter of fact about it and refuse to care about their commentary. “We are having family introvert time now and each going to our corners. We’ll see you at 2!” And then disappear. When they ask where you were “Reading a book! How about you? What did you do?” Etc. No sneaking around or feeling bad. If you need to explain to them what you need and why, just do it. Model this for your kids.[/quote]

This. But OP shouldn't do this; her DH should
 His parents are his to handle. OP, he should script what he wants to say, so he's not winging it, as it sounds like they would steamroll him if he's not firm and clear. And I'd frame it as, it's great that you visit! We want to integrate you more into our regular routines and that means that sometimes the kids will go off to do homework or chill or read and we encourage that (etc.)

Another idea is to be a bit less available. Sounds like they visit frequently. It's good if you all get along other than this issue! But consider if they're maybe visiting for too long each stay or visiting more times than really works for your family.
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