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[quote=Anonymous]I think there is a lot of denial and bargaining in the first few years -- he will be cured by x therapy, we will find the right therapy and he will be normal; he will learn xyz skill (talking or walking or whatever) by age 2/3/4 and that will make all the difference in his seeming normal.  There is acceptance over a period of a couple of years and a real period of getting to know your child for who he/she really is and falling in love with THAT child, not the child of your imagination and pregnancy dreams.  Then the real relationship begins.  However, there are dips and depressions and angry feelings that can occur whenever you are around kids your child's age who are normal or around a gathering of cousins/family members/etc.

I don't know where you are now, whether your child was diagnosed at birth, has no diagnosis, is in an unfolding stage, but I think it's important to make friends with other special needs moms, to have a network of therapists who can "guru" you and to just let yourself be okay.  I did a lot of acting "as if" in the first few years...acting as if I were okay with my life, and I realized after a few years that I WAS okay.[/quote]

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