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[quote=Anonymous]Me. Contributing factors:

- Studied abroad junior year and when I came back for senior year struggled to find housing off campus (and living on campus as an upperclassman would have been considered weird) and wound up living with a friend who had already graduated, not that close to campus. She was busy with work and we didn't socialize that much, but it also meant I was a bit far from other friends for socializing, and it kind of torpedoed those friendships. We stayed friends but then did not stay in touch after graduation.

- Moved to a part of the country where not a lot of alums from my undergrad go. Had one friend from undergrad who moved here at the same time and we have definitely stayed friends, but I went to grad school and her career/personal life went in a different direction from mine, so I wouldn't say we're close at all. For instance I didn't invite her to my (admittedly small) wedding and it wasn't weird at all.

- I think I'm a bit of a loner in general? I have more grad school friends than undergrad friends, but even in that category I'd only include one classmate who I'd say is still a good friend 10+ years later.

But it was fine because I wound up making a really great group of friends in my late 20s, post grad school, who remain my closest friends. And I met my spouse through that group. So failing to create close connections in undergrad was not the end of the world. I mostly only think of it when I'm hanging out with my good friends and one of them mentions one of the THEIR college friends, or getting together with college pals, and I remember "oh yeah, I don't really do that." Oh well. I have a good life otherwise! And my degree still works for getting me jobs and stuff. So it all worked out.[/quote]

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